I've just had a week away with my boys but instead of talking about what I have done with them I want to talk about The Atlas, I know, in a becoming the mama I want to be post!!
Right from the very beginning one of my big parenting philosophies has been to facilitate The Atlas having a great relationship with our boys - in my case this has been very easy. The Atlas was always going to be a super involved, enthusiastic and willing Dad.
But I think in these early years especially when Mama really is the only answer to feeding (often) and when Mama spends 100% and some, of her time with the baby it can be easy to feel like you know it all. When Dad picks up, changes, burps, settles.... it can be so, SO easy to start giving corrections from the sideline.
In my limited, ahem!, knowledge of the male psyche I can say this doesn't help - a man constantly told he is doing it wrong will soon stop attempting at all.... and so then we mourn the missing relationship of a dad with his child.
Sometimes becoming the mama I want to be is holding my tongue and genuinely valuing that actually The Atlas has so much to teach me about being a parent (and he really, really does) and also he has a world of stuff to download into 2 very special little minds about being a man.
do you ever struggle to hold your tongue for the long term good??